Suzannah McFall

May 9, 2023

Wedding at Abbeville Estate in Auckland

How to Get Married as an Introvert

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As an introvert, you may have mixed feelings about your upcoming wedding day. On one hand, you’re excited to celebrate your love and commitment with your partner and share this special moment with your loved ones. On the other hand, you may feel overwhelmed by the thought of being the center of attention and having to interact with a large group of people all day.

Introverted bride gets married

You may worry about feeling drained or anxious and not being able to fully enjoy the day. But rest assured, with careful planning and consideration of your personality and preferences, you can have a wedding day that feels comfortable and authentic to you. As a photographer who is more on the introverted side, I understand these concerns and work closely with my clients to create a wedding photography experience that feels natural and stress-free.

Bride takes a look in the mirror as she prepares for her wedding day in Auckland

As an introvert, I understand the unique challenges that introverted couples face on their wedding day. Weddings can be overwhelming with a lot of people, noise, and activity. Here are some tips to help introverted couples survive their wedding day:

Schedule Alone Time
It’s important to take a few minutes to recharge. Find a quiet space away from the hustle and bustle, even if it’s just for a few moments. As an experienced wedding photographer, I can help create a quiet, intimate space for my introverted clients where they can relax and recharge. I advise couples to plan a 15 minute slot into their wedding day to spend a moment together, just the 2 of them, in order to talk and debrief a little about the events of the day.

Communicate Your Needs
Don’t be afraid to communicate your needs to your wedding planner, family, and friends. They can help accommodate your needs and make sure you feel comfortable throughout the day. As your wedding photographer, I make sure to discuss any specific needs or concerns you may have before the wedding day, so we can tailor our approach to your personality and preferences. I also tell all my couples to tell me if the photography is getting too much and they need a little space. I get it! Being chased by a photographer for a whole day is not everyones cup of tea, and I won’t be the least bit offended if asked to take a step back. After all, whilst photos are important, it’s even more important that you enjoy your day

Have a Plan for Group Photos
Group photos are an important part of wedding photography, but they can be overwhelming for introverted couples. I find that couples find this part of the day the most stressful as those who are meant to be in the photos have wandered off, or are busy talking to other guests. It can be really hard to coral people would rather mingle and eat the canapés. I work with my clients to create a list of must-have group photos and make them as efficient and stress-free as possible. We can also plan to take these photos during cocktail hour when the wedding party is less likely to be in demand. And the best way to approach these photos is to have a designated person who is confident, has a loud voice, and knows who is who, to rally up the right people for the right photo. I tell couples to talk to this person and tell them what their role is before the wedding day so that they know exactly what they need to be doing.

A microphone comes in very handy here also! And, at the end of your ceremony, if you can have your celebrant mention that family photos are happening in 20 minutes (or whatever time you have scheduled), those who are going to be in the photos will know to stick close.

Focus on Each Other
Remember that the wedding day is about celebrating your love and commitment to each other. Focus on each other throughout the day and don’t worry too much about the guests, the timeline, or the details. As your wedding photographer, I focus on capturing genuine, authentic moments between you and your partner.

Hire an Introverted Photographer
Consider hiring a wedding photographer who understands the unique needs of introverted couples. An introverted photographer may be better able to create a calm, comfortable environment and capture intimate moments that other photographers may miss. As an introverted photographer myself, I understand the importance of creating a comfortable and relaxed environment for my clients. I take a laid-back approach to wedding photography and focus on capturing moments that truly reflect the couple’s personality and style. But don’t be afraid that I can’t make my voice loud and be confident when the time comes. Over the years, I have learnt to work with large groups of people, giving directions, rallying people along and how to be assertive when it’s the right time to do so. I feel that this is the best of both worlds, you are not going to see me running around being the centre of attention for sure, but I can and will do what it takes to get the attention I need to take good photos, whilst being super understanding and empathetic towards those who may not feel that comfortable in front of the camera.

In conclusion, being an introvert shouldn’t stop you from enjoying your wedding day. With some careful planning and communication, introverted couples can have a wedding that reflects their personality and preferences. And with the help of an experienced, introverted photographer, they can capture memories that they’ll cherish for a lifetime.

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